Pink and I have returned from our trip to Adelaide, completely exhausted.
The trip had it's ups and downs to say the very least......
There were some interesting career options for Pink to consider. She really enjoyed the hairdressing and the naturopathy, and found the architect really interesting, although was put off by the 5 years at uni. I don't think she has come to any decisions, and a lot of the time she wasn't in the right "headspace" to be thinking about her career options which was unfortunate.
On Tuesday night Pink broke up with her boyfriend. I was quietly relieved because I worried that having an older boyfriend meant that she was wanting to grow up too fast. Pink was ok at first but by Wednesday afternoon I had to take her back to our hotel because she just couldn't hold it together. Then she seemed to pick up again and decided to join the class for movie night. Thursday she was pretty good all day, but like I said wasn't really "on channel". On Thursday night we went out shopping and bowling with the class and on the way home she just fell to pieces again. Today she has been ok, but quiet. I'm finding it hard to console her, how do you go about telling them that it's not the end of the world without trivialising it? To her its a really big deal. This is her first breakup. These emotions are painful and new.
What I'm afraid of now is that he will decide he wants to get back together again, and then we will get back on this emotional roller coaster for another ride.
This parenting teenagers is just one crisis after another sometimes!
Friday, June 6, 2008
Exhausted!
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6 valued opinions!:
I'm so sorry you & Pink are having to go through this. It is huge, this breakup, in her eyes. But hopefully through Godly guidance, she will continue to remember that God has a plan for her life (Jeremiah 29:11). Just keep doing what you are doing, and love her up big time.
And a hug from me too.
Sharon ~ How I feel for you and to have all this drama play out at a very inconvenient time... Why couldn't she have waited until you returned home? (Would have much easier then... though young people don't always think that way!) Sounds like you are handling it really well though... Right now, you have to let her 'walk' through her emotional feelings. It does seem like the end of the world. The bes thing is to be available to listen and just support her as she 'grieves'. And, you know, just keep praying for her...
I'm right there with you ~ the challenges and dramas and traumas involved with parenting young adults. There are some days I would rather skip this age, but know we've all got to get through it and one day our children will give us honor for all we've done for them. (Our oldest son has done just that with me ~ in some really special ways and it overwhelms me to tears...) There is hope! I'll be praying for all of you.
I missed you!!!! *sob*
Glad you made it home safely but sorry to hear about Pink and the break-up. Oh tender hearts.... :( At least she had her mum right there.
Today she is angry.
Tomorrow who knows.
Her BF was quite controlling and needy and while he was lovely I have to say that I think she is better out of the relationship. She has moments where she can see that too, just not many moments like that yet.
Now she is stressing about going to school. She thinks all his friends will hate her. And some of them may but it's just something that she has to deal with unfortunately. Honestly, at the moment I think it's all too hard!
I can understand all the range of emotions she must be going through right now... I can only imagine it's even more difficult when you are from a town where everyone knows everyone. (okay ~ so I give you one disadvantage to where you are living) :)
In the middle of tough situations, it does feel like it's "larger than life" and will be impossible to get through. However, one day at a time. Yes, it will be awkward in the beginning - but she will see who her true friends are and if this relationship is really what God has planned for her life, then He will work out all the details. If not, it is better for her to go through this difficult time now than to realize that 10 or 20 years down the road, she made the wrong decisions...
I do feel for all of you and pray God's healing, comfort and an abundance of His joy for each of you!
Thanks so much Joanie. Yes there are some disadvantages to being in a small community. Pink is dreading going to school on Tuesday (public holiday Monday) to have everyone talking about her.
Keep praying!
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